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[Hedda]

In another thread here, it's been noted that the spreading use of the internet by Thais has provided many former gogo boys now "retired" and living with farangs, the chance to continue their cruising for farangs on the internet.

My experience over many years here is that, while many farangs have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy when it comes to their long term Thai BF's romantic pursuits with other young Thais, there is almost always the proviso that the BF not trick with other farangs.

I don't include the farangs who insist on total fidelity from their young lovers, including no sex with other young Thais, because those relationships in my opinion are based on self-delusion and hopelessly doomed to a quick failure or enduring pathos.

I am fascinated, however, by the concept that you usually see in many long term partnerships between farangs and Thais, that other farangs are frequently "off limits" for the Thai BF, even in most of the "open" realtionships. It seems illogical, especially when many of the same farangs don't see the slightest problem if their Thai BF tricks with another Thai, male or female, albeit in the "don't ask, don't tell" mode.

As comments in that other thread suggest, it's a concept that's hard to imagine not succumbing to temptation and fate, if it already hasn't done so, as more and more Thai BF's take to cruising the internet, meeting all sorts of available farangs who are hot to bed them in a "no strings" bout of gay adultery.

I wonder if this new technological freedom to cruise the internet and meet anyne with ease, will in time cause the "not with other farangs" taboo to also fall victim to the realities of technology. It would certainly make the obvious lack of 10's in the bars much easier to compensate for: Just rent someone else's 10 on the internet for an hour.
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[Gaybutton]

I think the reasons have to do with age and money. A Thai boyfriend having a tryst with another boy in his same age bracket is usually not viewed as a threat. On the other hand, a Thai boyfriend having a tryst with another "farang," especially if that "farang" is in the same age bracket as most of us, then that is viewed as a threat of getting dumped in favor of the other "farang" and also viewed as giving money to a boy who is out there with another "farang," whether that "farang" is also giving him money or not.

Also, if the "farang" does not live in Thailand, but gives the boy financial support, then he usually has no objection to the boy fulfilling his sexual needs with other young Thais, but does object to the idea that his boyfriend may have a string of "farang" giving him financial support.

I think there is also a psychological basis. If a young Thai boyfriend is sexually involved with another young Thai, then that is viewed as an obvious desire. But if that same boy is sexually involved with other "farang" then it is ego deflating because it removes the idea that the boy is actually attracted to you rather than simply your wallet.

Quite often I see that attitude even when the boy is not actually a boyfriend at all. I've seen many times when a "farang" took a boy "off" at the beach. The next day the same boy is with another "farang" and the first "farang" is angry about it. I've even seen that in bars.

[Sexpat]

Just rent someone else's 10 on the internet for an hour.

My limited experience with the internet is that there are a lot of Thai guys with regular boyfriends who are looking for short-time action there.

What I don't understand is how some of these Thai guys can post face photos and not expect to get caught cheating.

[UncleSam]

"I am fascinated, however, by the concept that you usually see in many long term partnerships between farangs and Thais, that other farangs are frequently "off limits" for the Thai BF . . .when many of the same farangs don't see the slightest problem if their Thai BF tricks with another Thai..."

Having sex with another Thai is natural; having sex with a farang is just more prostitution.

If your Thai BF has sex with other farangs, you are just another john, aren't you ?

Hehehe....

[Rainwalker]

In my relationship with BS, I laid down the law...

Have as much or as little sex without regard to race, creed, color, religious or sexual preferences with whomever.

And I reserve the right to do the same.

And if we run into issues, we'll deal with them, or not

[DollyLamma]

Have as much or as little sex without regard to race, creed, color, religious or sexual preferences with whomever.

There's nothing like an affirmative action relationship.

I will be the first to confess that I have always insisted on the "no other farang" rule in my previous relationships here.

Frankly speaking, I think most Thai young men with farang relationships are attracted to other Thai men anyway and see farangs for security, not passionate attraction.

Once a smart Thai thinks he has found a secure relationship with a farang, it doesn't make much sense to risk it by carrying on any secret relationship with another farang, especially when he finds sex with other young thais his preferred cup of tea anyway.

[BORG]

Once a smart Thai thinks he has found a secure relationship with a farang, it doesn't make much sense to risk it by carrying on any secret relationship with another farang,

That assumes he doesn't get greedy and decide that two farangs are better than one. From what I have seen, most young Thais think that the relationship won't last and so they get some insurance with a second farang, which only hastens the end of the first relationship.