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[Sexpat]

I was talking to a Thai guy aged 26 at a shopping center the other day who was clearly interested in meeting for some sex fun later that evening.

During the course of talking over coffee, he was very insistent that he was not a money boy, that his job as a retial clerk was his profession and that his sexual exploits with older farangs was for fun, not money.

But when the fun was over that night, which I would rate as a 6 out of 10, I had the distinct feeling that he expected to be paid for his time. At the risk of offending him, I slipped a 1000 baht note into his jeans pocket, which he saw and took, but made no comment.

What puzzles me is whether the "Me no money boy" was just a come-on designed to attract me, or whether this guy honestly doesn't see himself as a money boy because he works in retail sales, not a bar or massage parlor.

The fact that he expects to be paid for sex doesn't seem to matter to him in his definition of what a "money boy" means. It's a silly way to think, and I wonder if it's just a big con game or some device to "save face" in his own mind.

[Snowy]

"Me no money boy"
..... or some device to "save face" in his own mind.

I think you have it in the last bit of your post. I have formed the distinct impression that so-called str8/bi/gay guys who have a "respectable" job but earn money on the side having sex for money do not consider themselves to be "money boys", a term which they believe is derogatory. It is all about saving face.
Boys who's sole living is earned from working in gay bars are looked down on by the rest of Thai society even though the practice is wide-spread and in most cases tolerated.

[Haloi]

During the course of talking over coffee, he was very insistent that he was not a money boy . . . and that his sexual exploits with older farangs was for fun, not money.

It seems to me that he was not being honest with you when he said he wanted to have sex for fun, not money, and then took the cash. I think he was more interested in adding to his savings account than saving his face.

[Gaybutton]

I think he was more interested in adding to his savings account than saving his face.

I think so too. I wonder what his reaction would have been if no money had been given. In Thailand money is considered to be a legitimate gift. Perhaps he simply took it as a gift when he found the 1000 baht in his pocket. In any case, if he had clearly and intentionally led me to believe he was not interested in money for sex, and that's what I think he did, then he wouldn't have gotten any.

[Village Idiot]

This thread reminds me of a boy I knew from a Sunee beer bar.. I talked with him many times but
never got together with him.. One afternoon I was walking by his bar and he happened to be hanging
out even thou the bar wasn't open yet.. He said he wanted to have sex with me and emphasized that
he didn't want any money and just wanted to have sex..
I was amused and had no other plans so we jumped on his motorbike and had sex.. As usual, when he
was showering , I got his "tip" ready and had taken his offer of no money as just "pak wan" ( sweet mouth)
flattery and knowing he was a working boy, I would never take advantage of the situation..
He had dressed and said he had something to tell me but was having a hard time.. I was concerned he
was going to tell me of some disease he had, but it ended up being that he really did need money..

I opened my hand and he smiled when he saw his tip and we both laughed and I told him "mai pen rai" which is "no problem".. Recalling this has reminded me that it is long past time to have "no money" fun with him again...